Your Jealousy Archetype is…

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The Analyst

Your mind is your superpower—you’re quick to recognize patterns and love learning. When you feel jealousy you’re often caught wondering if something is off or if you’re actually just being illogical.

Read on to discover:

  • Why certain triggers hit harder for you than others.

  • Get clear on what keeps you stuck in jealousy spirals (even when you know better).

  • Your archetype isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower when you learn how to work with it instead of fighting against it.

  • Most people unknowingly reinforce their jealousy patterns without realizing it—this will show you how to break the cycle for good.

  • Learn what to do next to start feeling truly safe, secure, and magnetic in love.

Is this your story?


Pssst – if this archetype doesn’t resonate, check out the others!

Your brain is works overtime trying to solve jealousy like a puzzle.

It’s such an uncomfortable feeling and you want out, fast. 

Yet no amount of analyzing, replaying conversations, or mentally running "worst-case scenario drills" stops your jealousy spiral when you’re triggered.

The more you chase certainty, the more uncertain you feel.

The more you try to outthink your emotions, the more they dig in.

The more you look for proof that everything is fine, the more your brain will convince you something is wrong.

You might find yourself replaying conversations, scrolling your partner’s Instagram account, and looking for evidence to show you if things are alright or not.

This quest for clarity can, paradoxically, cloud your emotional landscape, making it challenging to trust yourself, your partner, and what’s real.

This isn’t your fault. These behaviors often stem from childhood experiences where emotional needs were inconsistently met. Growing up in an environment where affection or approval was unpredictable or conditional may have led you to develop hyper-vigilance, constantly analyzing situations to anticipate potential emotional upheavals.

As an adult, when faced with ambiguity or perceived inconsistencies, you may fall back on your childhood patterns, aiming to protect yourself from potential heartbreak by “figuring it all out” before anything happens.

4 Signs You’re the Analyst: 

  • No matter how much you try to reason with your jealousy it still takes over

  • You replay past conversations, stuck on something your partner said or did that feels unsafe

  • You listen to podcasts or read books about relationship psychology, attachment styles, and human behavior convinced that more knowledge will fix how you feel

  • You sometimes struggle to trust your own emotions because they don’t always make logical sense

You wish you could just…

  • Trust your gut instead of drafting a 10-page internal thesis on whether or not you’re actually overreacting

  • Trust your partner without running mental simulations of every possible betrayal scenario

  • Let things be good without scanning for the “but what if?” around the corner

  • Feel secure in your relationship without running a full-scale forensic analysis every time something feels off

But it feels like this jealousy thing is totally hijacking your brain! 

"Our life is what our thoughts make it."

— Marcus Aurelius

IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SECURE & ROOTED,
HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW: 

Look, you already know you shouldn’t feel this way.

You know your partner loves you.

But the second a jealousy trigger hits?

BOOM.

Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a toxic ex who won’t stay away.

The worst part is, you’re left asking:

“Why am I like this?”

Jealousy is a biological reaction.

It’s your body’s built in alarm system signaling that something important to your sense of love, belonging, or identity feels at risk.

Most people try to use reason and logic to get out of a jealousy spiral. They’ll talk to a friend or try to “talk themselves down,” or talk to their partner.

But these methods usually fall short because jealousy is an emotional response.

When you try to think your way out of an emotional response, you’re using the slow, logical part of the brain to fight against the fast, instinctual, and deeply wired survival system.

But using logic to combat jealousy Does. Not. Work.

Stick around, and I'll show you how to work with your body's natural system so your archetype feels more like a superhero than the villain in your love story.


When you integrate deep inner security, everything else just “clicks” into place.

  • You feel more rooted in the present moment without your mind running a marathon of “what ifs”

  • You don’t have to constantly wage war against yourself for feeling jealous

  • Release the mental scripts saying  “Why am I feeling this way?” “Do I need to say something?” “Am I totally unhinged?”

  • You finally get to experience presence, ease, and the deep, undeniable knowing that you are safe in love because you are safe in yourself

BUILD YOUR VERY OWN

Your next step:

Somatic Security System

The way you experience jealousy isn’t random—it follows a predictable pattern shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and core wounds.

If you experience intense jealousy (even if you know better) it’s not because you’re broken or you’re crazy or you’re “just a jealous person.”

You’ve just built your security system to solve for the wrong problem.

You think that if you can control the trigger situation, if you can get jealousy to not occur, then you’ll be safe.

When the truth is, triggers will happen. You can’t control that.

But when you regulate how you feel in your body, everything else changes.

How do you do that? ↓

Get out of the jealousy cycle

Pssst…everything you need is inside the Secure Love Playbook

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FOR 1/3 OF THE COST OF YOUR NEXT MANICURE YOU CAN:

  • Create your own Somatic Security System to come back into balance. Catching a whiff of jealousy will no longer hijack your day or send you into a shame spiral.

  • Learn simple strategies to communicate and establish appropriate limits and boundaries without fearing you'll push others away.

  • Dive into your Secure Love Soundtrack – a curated playlist of podcasts and tunes to elevate and inspire your journey to confidence in love

  • Create your unique roadmap to turn jealousy into fuel for personal growth and more connected relationships.

I’ve designed this playbook to work for people like me: the procrastinators, the bare-minimum-is-what-I-goters, the way-too-f*king-busiers, the ADHDers.

Pick a practice or journal prompt that fits your day—whether daily or weekly—and start building relationship security on your terms.

With over 60 beautifully designed pages, you'll find it easier to navigate triggers, rewire anxious patterns, and live in secure relationships.

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  • "I def need this practice to be empowered or I will default, as I do, to giving my power away."

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  • I wanted to share another win! When I feel a strong emotion instead of judging myself and thinking "why am I feeling this" I think, "how can I care for myself?" And that shift feels like a huge brain upgrade.

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You’ll come away with knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, stop hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.

Grab the playbook today and I’ll hook you up with the “Why You’re Still Jealous (even after doing all the work)” workshop! 

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Hello beautiful human. I’m Jess.

I am of mixed Lebanese-European heritage, living and working on Indigenous ancestral and unceded land in the Northwest Coast.

I help you change the way your body experiences jealousy, so you’re no longer stuck in hyper-vigilance, emotional armor, or feeling like you have to manage love to keep it safe.

If you’ve already tried going to therapy, listening to a bazillion podcasts, or journaling your pretty little heart out (and nothing seems to work) I’ve got something that will work for you!