Your Jealousy Archetype is…

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The Detective

Your intuition is razor-sharp, and you have an incredible ability to notice details others miss—but when you’re triggered into insecurity, that means you start collecting evidence to fuels the cycle!

Read on to discover:

  • Why certain triggers hit harder for you than others.

  • Get clear on what keeps you stuck in jealousy spirals (even when you know better).

  • Your archetype isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower when you learn how to work with it instead of fighting against it.

  • Most people unknowingly reinforce their jealousy patterns without realizing it—this will show you how to break the cycle for good.

  • Learn what to do next to start feeling truly safe, secure, and magnetic in love.

Is this your story?


Pssst – if this archetype doesn’t resonate, check out the others!

Maybe it starts with a tension in your chest, a nagging thought looping in the background: Something feels off.

Maybe it’s a relationship that feels threatening or an unanswered text that lingers just a little too long.

Your mind spins through possibilities, piecing together patterns like a crime scene investigator reconstructing a case.

You retrace conversations, scan for inconsistencies, file away tiny details like they might be the missing puzzle piece.

Your subconscious is running a program that says: If I just gather enough proof—one more scroll, one more question, one more careful analysis—I’ll finally feel secure.

But in a strange twist of biology, your search for certainty actually creates more doubt.

Because the more you log evidence, the more your brain reinforces the idea that something must be wrong.

And now, you’re stuck in the cycle:

An event triggers suspicion 🔍 You search for evidence to confirm your belief 🔍 Your nervous system reacts as if the threat is real 🔍 You feel anxious and jealous (spit, rinse, and repeat!)

Each loop strengthens the neural pathways that tell your body: Something’s not right. Find the proof.

When you’re constantly looking for betrayal, your brain will find something even when it’s not there.

This is why no amount of reassurance ever feels enough to shut off the jealousy.

This is why even when your partner is completely transparent, you still feel that gnawing edge of doubt.

4 Signs You’re the Detective: 

  • You dig on social media, looking for suspect likes and comments on other people’s photos (or on your partner’s page)

  • You have a hard time trusting words – you want proof, and often what you get doesn’t feel like enough

  • You replay past situations in your head, searching for the moment you “missed something”

  • You lookout for evidence of your partner’s true motives, trustworthiness, or infidelity

You wish you could just…

  • Scroll past their Instagram likes without feeling like a full-blown FBI profiler.

  • Enjoy a date night without a little voice in your head whispering, but what about that time…?

  • Shut your brain off at night instead of replaying conversations like an unsolved case file.

  • Trust your partner when they say there’s nothing to worry about.

  • Feel at ease in your relationship…

But it feels like this jealousy thing is totally hijacking your brain! 

"We think that by controlling the other person, we can control the outcome. And when we control the outcome, then we might be able to trust them."

 — Esther Perell

IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SECURE & CERTAIN,
HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW: 

Look, you already know you shouldn’t feel this way.

You know your partner loves you.

But the second a jealousy trigger hits?

BOOM.

Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a toxic ex who won’t stay away.

The worst part is, you’re left asking:

“Why am I like this?”

Jealousy is a biological reaction.

It’s your body’s built in alarm system signaling that something important to your sense of love, belonging, or identity feels at risk.

Most people try to use reason and logic to get out of a jealousy spiral. They’ll talk to a friend or try to “talk themselves down,” or talk to their partner.

But these methods usually fall short because jealousy is an emotional response.

When you try to think your way out of an emotional response, you’re using the slow, logical part of the brain to fight against the fast, instinctual, and deeply wired survival system.

But using logic to combat jealousy Does. Not. Work.

Stick around, and I'll show you how to work with your body's natural system so your archetype feels more like a superhero than the villain in your love story.


When you integrate deep inner security, everything else just “clicks” into place.

  • You no longer feel the urge to check, because your nervous system isn’t clamoring at you to find proof or brace for disaster 

  • Trust becomes something you feel, not something you have to verify

  • You stop replaying conversations or scanning for hidden meanings

  • You actually get to relax into love, enjoy it, and let it expand—without worry stealing you from the present moment

BUILD YOUR VERY OWN

Your next step:

Somatic Security System

The way you experience jealousy isn’t random—it follows a predictable pattern shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and core wounds.

If you experience intense jealousy (even if you know better) it’s not because you’re broken or you’re crazy or you’re “just a jealous person.”

You’ve just built your security system to solve for the wrong problem.

You think that if you can control the trigger situation, if you can get jealousy to not occur, then you’ll be safe.

When the truth is, triggers will happen. You can’t control that.

But when you regulate how you feel in your body, everything else changes.

How do you do that? ↓

Get out of the jealousy cycle

Pssst…everything you need is inside the Secure Love Playbook

Get 60+ pages of joiurnal prompts, guided practices, progress trackers, and all the skills you need to turn intense jealousy into lasting security

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FOR 1/3 OF THE COST OF YOUR NEXT MANICURE YOU CAN:

  • Create your own Somatic Security System to come back into balance. Catching a whiff of jealousy will no longer hijack your day or send you into a shame spiral.

  • Learn simple strategies to communicate and establish appropriate limits and boundaries without fearing you'll push others away.

  • Dive into your Secure Love Soundtrack – a curated playlist of podcasts and tunes to elevate and inspire your journey to confidence in love

  • Create your unique roadmap to turn jealousy into fuel for personal growth and more connected relationships.

I’ve designed this playbook to work for people like me: the procrastinators, the bare-minimum-is-what-I-goters, the way-too-f*king-busiers, the ADHDers.

Pick a practice or journal prompt that fits your day—whether daily or weekly—and start building relationship security on your terms.

With over 60 beautifully designed pages, you'll find it easier to navigate triggers, rewire anxious patterns, and live in secure relationships.

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  • "Thank you so much! You have a really beauitful way of synthesizing and articlating hte power of incorporating new processes. I'm excited to try these out."

  • "I def need this practice to be empowered or I will default, as I do, to giving my power away."

  • "I already used the safe space when getting triggered and it helped a lot. The way my body felt shifted and I pulled myself out of it. I will continue to grow that muscle."

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  • I wanted to share another win! When I feel a strong emotion instead of judging myself and thinking "why am I feeling this" I think, "how can I care for myself?" And that shift feels like a huge brain upgrade.

Inside you’ll find…

+ Secure Communication Scripts

+ 30 days of secure love mantras

+ Inspirational quotes and
images

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+ Feeling & sensing quick-reference guide

You’ll come away with knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, stop hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.

Grab the playbook today and I’ll hook you up with the “Why You’re Still Jealous (even after doing all the work)” workshop! 

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Hello beautiful human. I’m Jess.

I am of mixed Lebanese-European heritage, living and working on Indigenous ancestral and unceded land in the Northwest Coast.

I help you change the way your body experiences jealousy, so you’re no longer stuck in hyper-vigilance, emotional armor, or feeling like you have to manage love to keep it safe.

If you’ve already tried going to therapy, listening to a bazillion podcasts, or journaling your pretty little heart out (and nothing seems to work) I’ve got something that will work for you!