Your Jealousy Archetype is…

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The Protector

Your instincts are powerful, and your ability to set boundaries and anticipate potential pitfalls makes you a rock-solid partner—when balanced with abundant self-trust, you create safe, expansive love.

Read on to discover:

  • Why certain triggers hit harder for you than others.

  • Get clear on what keeps you stuck in jealousy spirals (even when you know better).

  • Your archetype isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower when you learn how to work with it instead of fighting against it.

  • Most people unknowingly reinforce their jealousy patterns without realizing it—this will show you how to break the cycle for good.

  • Learn what to do next to start feeling truly safe, secure, and magnetic in love.

Is this your story?


Pssst – if this archetype doesn’t resonate, check out the others!

It’s instinctual. The way your body tenses when something feels off. The way you clock shifts in tone, micro-expressions, words left unsaid.

Your intuition is sharp, your ability to read people is finely tuned, and you pride yourself on knowing who’s trustworthy and who’s full of shit.

And most of the time, that’s a gift.

But when it comes to love? That same hyper-awareness can feel more like a burden than a blessing.

Because when jealousy hits, it doesn’t just come from nowhere. It comes from something deep inside you—a belief shaped by past experiences, by moments when trust cracked and love felt unsafe.

Maybe you saw it happen in your own life.
Maybe it was the relationships around you that taught you love comes with risk.
Maybe someone you trusted wasn’t who they said they were.

Either way, your nervous system got the message: love isn’t safe.

So, you watch. You assess. You analyze details, just to make sure there’s nothing you’re missing.

Because you’ve learned that love can be volatile. Trust can be broken. And people aren’t always who they say they are.

You make it a point to see red flags before they turn into wreckage.

But being on guard hasn’t actually made you feel safer.

It’s made love feel like something you have to manage, control, or protect. And so it doesn’t really feel secure.

4 Signs You’re the Protector: 

  • You catalog red flag behaviors & potential warning signs

  • You test your partner’s loyalty in subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways

  • Jealousy doesn’t feel totally about you, it’s also about making sure you (and others) aren’t being played

  • You have a tendency to put labels on undesirable traits (like calling your ex narcissistic, manipulative, or emotionally unavailable – and they may well be!)

You wish you could just…

  • Feel safe without needing “proof” that your partner is loyal

  • Quit being hypervigilant and trust yourself to know if there is a real issue

  • Stop analyzing past mistakes, text messages, or interactions for hidden red flags

  • Let go of the mental exhaustion that comes with always being on alert

  • Love without putting your guard up

But it feels like this jealousy thing is totally hijacking your brain! 

"When you protect yourself from pain, be sure you do not protect yourself from love."

— Alan Cohen

IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SECURE & OPEN,
HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW: 

Look, you already know you shouldn’t feel this way.

You know your partner loves you.

But the second a jealousy trigger hits?

BOOM.

Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a toxic ex who won’t stay away.

The worst part is, you’re left asking:

“Why am I like this?”

Jealousy is a biological reaction.

It’s your body’s built in alarm system signaling that something important to your sense of love, belonging, or identity feels at risk.

Most people try to use reason and logic to get out of a jealousy spiral. They’ll talk to a friend or try to “talk themselves down,” or talk to their partner.

But these methods usually fall short because jealousy is an emotional response.

When you try to think your way out of an emotional response, you’re using the slow, logical part of the brain to fight against the fast, instinctual, and deeply wired survival system.

But using logic to combat jealousy Does. Not. Work.

Stick around, and I'll show you how to work with your body's natural system so your archetype feels more like a superhero than the villain in your love story.


When you integrate deep inner security, everything else just “clicks” into place.

  • You know how to tell the difference between intuition and suspicion 

  • You set boundaries that feel balanced and supportive 

  • You feel secure in love because you feel secure in yourself 

  • You let go of the mental exhaustion that comes from always being on alert and surrender to love…

BUILD YOUR VERY OWN

Your next step:

Somatic Security System

The way you experience jealousy isn’t random—it follows a predictable pattern shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and core wounds.

If you experience intense jealousy (even if you know better) it’s not because you’re broken or you’re crazy or you’re “just a jealous person.”

You’ve just built your security system to solve for the wrong problem.

You think that if you can control the trigger situation, if you can get jealousy to not occur, then you’ll be safe.

When the truth is, triggers will happen. You can’t control that.

But when you regulate how you feel in your body, everything else changes.

How do you do that? ↓

Get out of the jealousy cycle

Pssst…everything you need is inside the Secure Love Playbook

Get 60+ pages of joiurnal prompts, guided practices, progress trackers, and all the skills you need to turn intense jealousy into lasting security

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Secure in Love

FOR 1/3 OF THE COST OF YOUR NEXT MANICURE YOU CAN:

  • Create your own Somatic Security System to come back into balance. Catching a whiff of jealousy will no longer hijack your day or send you into a shame spiral.

  • Learn simple strategies to communicate and establish appropriate limits and boundaries without fearing you'll push others away.

  • Dive into your Secure Love Soundtrack – a curated playlist of podcasts and tunes to elevate and inspire your journey to confidence in love

  • Create your unique roadmap to turn jealousy into fuel for personal growth and more connected relationships.

I’ve designed this playbook to work for people like me: the procrastinators, the bare-minimum-is-what-I-goters, the way-too-f*king-busiers, the ADHDers.

Pick a practice or journal prompt that fits your day—whether daily or weekly—and start building relationship security on your terms.

With over 60 beautifully designed pages, you'll find it easier to navigate triggers, rewire anxious patterns, and live in secure relationships.

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  • "I def need this practice to be empowered or I will default, as I do, to giving my power away."

  • "I already used the safe space when getting triggered and it helped a lot. The way my body felt shifted and I pulled myself out of it. I will continue to grow that muscle."

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  • I wanted to share another win! When I feel a strong emotion instead of judging myself and thinking "why am I feeling this" I think, "how can I care for myself?" And that shift feels like a huge brain upgrade.

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+ 30 days of secure love mantras

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+ Feeling & sensing quick-reference guide

You’ll come away with knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, stop hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.

Grab the playbook today and I’ll hook you up with the “Why You’re Still Jealous (even after doing all the work)” workshop! 

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Hello beautiful human. I’m Jess.

I am of mixed Lebanese-European heritage, living and working on Indigenous ancestral and unceded land in the Northwest Coast.

I help you change the way your body experiences jealousy, so you’re no longer stuck in hyper-vigilance, emotional armor, or feeling like you have to manage love to keep it safe.

If you’ve already tried going to therapy, listening to a bazillion podcasts, or journaling your pretty little heart out (and nothing seems to work) I’ve got something that will work for you!