Your Jealousy Archetype is…

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The Shape Shifter

You’re adaptable, intuitive, and deeply connected to those around you, effortlessly making people feel at ease—when you learn to hold onto yourself within relationships, you become truly magnetic.

Read on to discover:

  • Why certain triggers hit harder for you than others.

  • Get clear on what keeps you stuck in jealousy spirals (even when you know better).

  • Your archetype isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower when you learn how to work with it instead of fighting against it.

  • Most people unknowingly reinforce their jealousy patterns without realizing it—this will show you how to break the cycle for good.

  • Learn what to do next to start feeling truly safe, secure, and magnetic in love.

Is this your story?


Pssst – if this archetype doesn’t resonate, check out the others!

It’s easy for you to connect with people.

You can match another person’s energy, speak their language, and slip seamlessly into whatever role the moment calls for. You don’t think about doing it—it’s just automatic, like nodding along in agreement before you’ve processed what was said.

This can feel like such a gift at times—especially in the early dating phase.

You pick up on their favorite phrases, start listening to their music, get into their interests. That’s normal, right? After all, you’re interested in a lot of things!

You love how it feels to take on aspects of your person. It feels so intimate and natural.

That’s why, if your partner seems drawn to someone different from you, jealousy flares up, sharp and disorienting.

If they express wanting to explore different interests, it can feel triggering.

If they want to do things without you, you often feel left out.

You tell yourself you’re being ridiculous, but a core wound hums beneath the surface saying, “I’m not good enough.”

So you keep close, keep tabs, stay aligned.

If you’re always on the same page, it feels like there’s less space for rejection, or less risk of being unwanted.

4 Signs You’re the Shape Shifter: 

  • You tend to avoid conflict & setting boundaries, and you struggle to speak up when something bothers you

  • You have a hard time making decisions because you’re so used to filtering choices through someone else

  • You say “I’m fine with whatever” a lot and prefer to let others decide your activities

  • You struggle with jealousy because if your partner is drawn to someone else, what does that mean about you?

You wish you could just…

  • Stop faking “chill girl energy” when you actually have a whole-ass opinion, desire, or need

  • Say what you actually think or want without overanalyzing how it’ll be received

  • Say “actually, I do have a preference” without immediately second-guessing yourself or feeling like you need to justify it

  • Trust that you’re enough as you are…

But it feels like this jealousy thing is totally hijacking your brain! 

"The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too." 

— Ernest Hemingway

IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SECURE & SPECIAL,
HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW: 

Look, you already know you shouldn’t feel this way.

You know your partner loves you.

But the second a jealousy trigger hits?

BOOM.

Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a toxic ex who won’t stay away.

The worst part is, you’re left asking:

“Why am I like this?”

Jealousy is a biological reaction.

It’s your body’s built in alarm system signaling that something important to your sense of love, belonging, or identity feels at risk.

Most people try to use reason and logic to get out of a jealousy spiral. They’ll talk to a friend or try to “talk themselves down,” or talk to their partner.

But these methods usually fall short because jealousy is an emotional response.

When you try to think your way out of an emotional response, you’re using the slow, logical part of the brain to fight against the fast, instinctual, and deeply wired survival system.

But using logic to combat jealousy Does. Not. Work.

Stick around, and I'll show you how to work with your body's natural system so your archetype feels more like a superhero than the villain in your love story.


When you integrate deep inner security, everything else just “clicks” into place.

  • You no longer feel like their attraction to someone or something else means there’s something wrong with you

  • You make decisions based on what you actually want (and you feel good about it)

  • You stop relying on physical closeness to feel secure and start finding deeper connection through emotional intimacy and trust

  • You finally get to experience presence, ease, and the deep, undeniable knowing that you are safe in love because you are safe in yourself

  • Love feels solid, even when you and your partner are doing your own thing

BUILD YOUR VERY OWN

Your next step:

Somatic Security System

The way you experience jealousy isn’t random—it follows a predictable pattern shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and core wounds.

If you experience intense jealousy (even if you know better) it’s not because you’re broken or you’re crazy or you’re “just a jealous person.”

You’ve just built your security system to solve for the wrong problem.

You think that if you can control the trigger situation, if you can get jealousy to not occur, then you’ll be safe.

When the truth is, triggers will happen. You can’t control that.

But when you regulate how you feel in your body, everything else changes.

How do you do that? ↓

Get out of the jealousy cycle

Pssst…everything you need is inside the Secure Love Playbook

Get 60+ pages of joiurnal prompts, guided practices, progress trackers, and all the skills you need to turn intense jealousy into lasting security

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The No-BS Interactive Journal to Become
Secure in Love

FOR 1/3 OF THE COST OF YOUR NEXT MANICURE YOU CAN:

  • Create your own Somatic Security System to come back into balance. Catching a whiff of jealousy will no longer hijack your day or send you into a shame spiral.

  • Learn simple strategies to communicate and establish appropriate limits and boundaries without fearing you'll push others away.

  • Dive into your Secure Love Soundtrack – a curated playlist of podcasts and tunes to elevate and inspire your journey to confidence in love

  • Create your unique roadmap to turn jealousy into fuel for personal growth and more connected relationships.

I’ve designed this playbook to work for people like me: the procrastinators, the bare-minimum-is-what-I-goters, the way-too-f*king-busiers, the ADHDers.

Pick a practice or journal prompt that fits your day—whether daily or weekly—and start building relationship security on your terms.

With over 60 beautifully designed pages, you'll find it easier to navigate triggers, rewire anxious patterns, and live in secure relationships.

  • "I love this all! (so much!!!) I look forward to working on it. Thank you Jess!!

  • "Thank you so much! You have a really beauitful way of synthesizing and articlating hte power of incorporating new processes. I'm excited to try these out."

  • "I def need this practice to be empowered or I will default, as I do, to giving my power away."

  • "I already used the safe space when getting triggered and it helped a lot. The way my body felt shifted and I pulled myself out of it. I will continue to grow that muscle."

  • "Omg thank you SO MUCH. These look like fucking helpful AF exercises. I can't wait. Especially writing about who I am. I think I forgot about myself parts of this year."

  • I wanted to share another win! When I feel a strong emotion instead of judging myself and thinking "why am I feeling this" I think, "how can I care for myself?" And that shift feels like a huge brain upgrade.

Inside you’ll find…

+ Secure Communication Scripts

+ 30 days of secure love mantras

+ Inspirational quotes and
images

Only $27!

+ Feeling & sensing quick-reference guide

You’ll come away with knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, stop hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.

Grab the playbook today and I’ll hook you up with the “Why You’re Still Jealous (even after doing all the work)” workshop! 

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Hello beautiful human. I’m Jess.

I am of mixed Lebanese-European heritage, living and working on Indigenous ancestral and unceded land in the Northwest Coast.

I help you change the way your body experiences jealousy, so you’re no longer stuck in hyper-vigilance, emotional armor, or feeling like you have to manage love to keep it safe.

If you’ve already tried going to therapy, listening to a bazillion podcasts, or journaling your pretty little heart out (and nothing seems to work) I’ve got something that will work for you!