Your Jealousy Archetype is…
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The Volcano
You feel everything deeply, which means your love is passionate, your presence is electric, and when you master your emotional waves, you become a force of nature—fiery, alive, and fiercely authentic.
Read on to discover:
Why certain triggers hit harder for you than others.
Get clear on what keeps you stuck in jealousy spirals (even when you know better).
Your archetype isn’t a flaw—it’s a superpower when you learn how to work with it instead of fighting against it.
Most people unknowingly reinforce their jealousy patterns without realizing it—this will show you how to break the cycle for good.
Learn what to do next to start feeling truly safe, secure, and magnetic in love.
Is this your story?
Pssst – if this archetype doesn’t resonate, check out the others!It starts small.
A glance that lingers too long. A casual mention of someone’s name. The way your partner’s voice shifts when they’re talking to someone else.
At first, you tell yourself not to make a big deal out of it. You push it down, swallow it, move on.
But then it happens again. And again.
And suddenly, it’s not just about this moment.
It’s every time you’ve ever felt discarded, every time someone made you feel replaceable, every heartbreak and every quiet fear of not being enough—all rising up inside you like a pressure chamber.
When jealousy hits, it doesn’t feel like a curiosity. It feels like a full blown wildfire burning through your body.
And the most frustrating part is that on the outside, whatever set it off might look small.
A delayed text. A passing comment. A moment of distraction.
But your body isn’t reacting to just this moment.
It’s reacting to years of collected data—stories your nervous system has stored about love, rejection, safety, and betrayal.
Every experience where you felt unseen, unwanted, or abandoned got locked away in your body’s memory, a highlight reel of past pain waiting for the right moment to hit play.
Your nervous system floods with cortisol, your body braces for impact, and suddenly, you’re reacting at full intensity to something that, logically, you know shouldn’t feel this big.
4 Signs You’re the Volcano:
At the slightest provocation, your jealousy trigger feels like a 10/10
Once jealousy takes over, it feels impossible to contain
After a jealousy spiral, you feel emotionally hungover
You try to avoid getting triggered, but the second your partner’s phone lights up, you feel that sharp pull of curiosity—and suddenly, you're side-eyeing it, wondering who just texted and why
You wish you could just…
Feel calm and grounded in love, knowing you don’t have to fight for security
Have deep, passionate love that doesn’t come with emotional whiplash
Cool down faster when you get triggered, instead of spending hours (or days) in the emotional aftershock.
Know that even if jealousy shows up, you’ll handle it instead of it handling you
But it feels like this jealousy thing is totally hijacking your brain!
“I kinda wanna throw my phone across the room/'Cause all I see are girls too good to be true”
— Olivia Rodrigo
IF YOU WANT TO FEEL SECURE & RELAXED,
HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW:
Look, you already know you shouldn’t feel this way.
You know your partner loves you.
But the second a jealousy trigger hits?
BOOM.
Your nervous system hijacks your brain like a toxic ex who won’t stay away.
The worst part is, you’re left asking:
“Why am I like this?”
Jealousy is a biological reaction.
It’s your body’s built in alarm system signaling that something important to your sense of love, belonging, or identity feels at risk.
Most people try to use reason and logic to get out of a jealousy spiral. They’ll talk to a friend or try to “talk themselves down,” or talk to their partner.
But these methods usually fall short because jealousy is an emotional response.
When you try to think your way out of an emotional response, you’re using the slow, logical part of the brain to fight against the fast, instinctual, and deeply wired survival system.
But using logic to combat jealousy Does. Not. Work.
Stick around, and I'll show you how to work with your body's natural system so your archetype feels more like a superhero than the villain in your love story.
When you integrate deep inner security, everything else just “clicks” into place.
Your body no longer braces for disaster every time your partner’s phone buzzes
Instead of reacting on autopilot, you choose a response that actually serves you
Jealousy might still show up—because you’re human—but it no longer owns you. It doesn’t hijack your day, ruin your night, or push you into behaviors you regret
The best part is, instead of investing all your energy in preventing loss, you pour it into building connection. Into deepening intimacy, feeling more desired, and creating the kind of love that fuels you instead of drains you
BUILD YOUR VERY OWN
Your next step:
Somatic Security System
The way you experience jealousy isn’t random—it follows a predictable pattern shaped by your past experiences, attachment style, and core wounds.
If you experience intense jealousy (even if you know better) it’s not because you’re broken or you’re crazy or you’re “just a jealous person.”
You’ve just built your security system to solve for the wrong problem.
You think that if you can control the trigger situation, if you can get jealousy to not occur, then you’ll be safe.
When the truth is, triggers will happen. You can’t control that.
But when you regulate how you feel in your body, everything else changes.
How do you do that? ↓
Get out of the jealousy cycle
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Create your unique roadmap to turn jealousy into fuel for personal growth and more connected relationships.
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I wanted to share another win! When I feel a strong emotion instead of judging myself and thinking "why am I feeling this" I think, "how can I care for myself?" And that shift feels like a huge brain upgrade.
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+ Secure Communication Scripts
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You’ll come away with knowing how to calm jealousy and anxiety in real time, stop hyper-vigilance and overthinking spirals, and retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love.
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Hello beautiful human. I’m Jess.
I am of mixed Lebanese-European heritage, living and working on Indigenous ancestral and unceded land in the Northwest Coast.
I help you change the way your body experiences jealousy, so you’re no longer stuck in hyper-vigilance, emotional armor, or feeling like you have to manage love to keep it safe.
If you’ve already tried going to therapy, listening to a bazillion podcasts, or journaling your pretty little heart out (and nothing seems to work) I’ve got something that will work for you!