NLP Swish Pattern
The Swish Pattern is a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) technique designed to help break an unwanted habit or thought pattern and replace it with more empowered and constructive ones.
It involves a structured process of visualization and mental rehearsal.
Step 1: Identify the Unwanted Behavior or Thought Pattern
Acknowledge the difficulty you experience in staying present in your body during intimate moments. This might involve feeling disconnected, distracted, or anxious.
Step 2: Create a Desired Outcome Image
Close your eyes and visualize a scenario where you are fully present and connected during an intimate moment. Imagine the sensations, emotions, and positive interactions with your partner. Focus on the details that signify comfort, connection, and mindfulness.
Step 3: Create an Unwanted Image
Now, create an image associated with the unwanted behavior. Visualize a scenario where you feel disconnected, anxious, or distracted during intimacy. Make this image less vivid than the desired outcome but clear enough to represent the negative pattern.
Step 4: Apply the Swish
Picture both images side by side in your mind. Begin to mentally shrink the unwanted image until it becomes small and faded. Simultaneously, let the desired outcome image expand and become more vivid. As you do this, say the word "swish" in your mind.
Step 5: Break State
Take a deep breath and allow yourself to clear your mind for a moment. This step helps in breaking the existing pattern and preparing your mind for the new association.
Step 6: Test the Swish
Think about the situations or triggers that typically lead to feeling disconnected during intimate moments. Notice if there's any change in your emotional response or the intensity of the old pattern. Repeat the swish process if necessary.
Step 7: Reinforce and Repeat
Consistently practice the Swish Pattern, especially before intimate moments. Revisit the desired outcome image regularly to reinforce the positive association with staying present in your body during such moments.
By incorporating the Swish Pattern into your routine, you can gradually shift your mindset and improve your ability to stay present and connected during intimate experiences.
