Upgraded Self-Pleasure

Slow Pleasure
When you're masturbating, slow down & sink into feeling. It's an opportunity to explore your body, find new pleasure zones, and surprise yourself.

There's no right or wrong way to do this, no outcome that needs to be achieved. You may find that some of the time you don't feel pleasure while you're doing the exercise and you're just "going through the motions." That's okay!

And you may be surprised when you find something new that feels juicy and delicious.

The goal here is to elongate your self pleasure sessions to 10-20 minutes. If you find your mind wandering or feeling like you want to rush, take some deep breaths and anchor in the thought, "it's okay to feel this way, I'm rewiring my pleasure pathways," and stay with the practice.

Notice what thoughts come up, but like meditation, bring your attention back to your breath and the sensations in your body, and know that you're doing the work that will unlock stronger, more varied orgasms.

Breathwork

Play around with different breathwork practices to see if you can use your breath to ignite your orgasm.

If you're feeling close (either while masturbating or during sex) try out an explosive “hah-hah-hah” breathwork pattern to ignite your core and sacral chakra.

This is the typical breath pattern you see in porn, or like if you’re simulating a panting dog (sexy, I know).

You can alternate with hah-breath and a series of longer slower breaths to relax, and then use your breath to bring the energy up again, like riding a wave.

Ride these pleasure crests like waves, alternating between squeezing your PC muscles and relaxing them when you relax your breath (kegels).

Exploratory Vibe

If you use a vibrator in self pleasure sessions, play around with your toy in different places on your body and experiment how it feels.

You can use this to give your pussy a break and elongate your pleasure session.

While orgasm isn't the goal, of course feel free to bring yourself there.

See how it feels to let go of expectation and ride the waves of pleasure, using your vibrator to bring it back up again, and then shifting off of your clitoris to explore another zone, like your nipples, teasing and edging yourself before letting yourself climax.

Sensation Play

If you have a glass dildo (<-- links to my favorite pick) they're great for temperature play.

The goal here is to simply experience different kinds of sensation that may or may not bring you pleasure.

Sensations for your body to notice, and to incorporate into your self pleasure sessions so that they become less focused on the orgasm and more focused on pleasure, relaxation, and tuning deeply into the experience.